As a counselling psychotherapist I meet a lot of people who are struggling with the balancing act of life; workload, children, ageing parents, relationship and friends are among the many responsibilities we try to juggle daily. All of this juggling on a regular basis before even thinking about ourselves, our diet, fitness and general health.
Media and social media can appear full of ‘successful’ people. Supposedly ‘just like us’ but with perfectly toned bodies, a stellar career and beautifully turned out children. They run marathons before breakfast and roll out a Nigella style roast for 20 close friends at lunch. If we compare ourselves it can be hard not to feel overwhelmed.
- Are we coming up short….?
- Or could these images be constructed with ‘perfection’ styling before we clap eyes on the finished product?
Impacts on our Health
All of the above add to feelings of overwhelm, anxiety and just not being enough. When we are spinning plates and have such high expectations of ourselves, something’s got to give. Usually because we are busy with work and trying to live up to the perceived expectations of others, the first thing to give is our health and our self-care.
If we are tired, feeling depleted and ragged, it shows in our work and relationships. We can feel demotivated and under-appreciated in work. Anger and resentment can be directed towards loved ones taking us for granted. The basic concept of caring for ourselves in a healthy way underpins how well and whole-heartedly we can care for others, and do our jobs to the best of our abilities.
Surely the correlation between stressed, overworked individuals who strive for perfection and their incidence of back pain, is too high to be a coincidence?
Could it be possible that our tired unsupported bodies are screaming at us to look after them. Sometimes the physical pain we feel can be a symptom of something deeper emotionally. Ironically, lower backs (lumbar spinal) often seem to ‘go’ around stressful landmark life events, when we feel least ‘supported’.
Pausing to ask what your body feels like in this moment, could be the first step in your journey to appropriate self care.
- What do you truly need right now? (as opposed to what you ‘should’ be doing).
It could be deciding to talk to someone about the stressors in your life. What impacts on your relationships and general health?
It could mean taking a step towards a stronger healthier body through exercise, diet or relaxation.
Regardless of detail, pursuing something suitable, exclusively for you, can help positive change.
Come and ask Personal Health how we can help……it’s time to redress your Personal Health balance….